17 Rules of Self-Love
17 Rules of Self-Love I love myself This is the only rule you need. But these are some thoughts that helped me climb out of rock bottom. You can have unrelenting self-love! Just decide you love yourself. And: I […]
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Restrictive or Inhibitory Gatekeeping?
“Restrictive” or “Inhibitory” Gatekeeping? Searching Google for “restrictive gatekeeping” and “inhibitory gatekeeping” provides interesting results that provide insight into how one parent can interfere (or attempt to control) the children’s interaction with the other parent. Is it restrictive or inhibitory […]
Dog Whistling as Emotional Abuse by Narcissists
Dog Whistling Narcissists know you so well that they publicly abuse you without others recognizing the abuse. So-called “Dog Whistling” is a covert form of gaslighting that narcissists use to trigger or disorient you in public or private. A […]
Gatekeeping by Narcissistic Mothers
Gatekeeping by Narcissistic Mothers Gatekeeping is common in otherwise healthy families and even more common during separation and divorce. Mothers may weaponize gatekeeping during custody disputes. Yet, it is known that paternal involvement by both parents is necessary for […]
Happy no matter what in Retirement
Happy no matter what in Retirement I want to be happy no matter what in retirement. After all, happiness is a choice. And, importantly, human capacity for happiness hasn’t changed since the beginning. So you can be about […]
From Grey Rock to Yellow Rocking
Yellow Rocking the Narcissist in Your Life Yellow rocking: it’s how you communicate with a narcissist. Based on the grey rock method, it is much more. It is polite. The yellow rock method is necessary if you can’t go […]
On Becoming “Not Unhealthy”
The Not Unhealthy Parent As a single parent, my goal in life is to be not unhealthy. Generational trauma runs in most families and is seen in parents and children. It takes a single person to put an end […]
Hippocampus Healing From Trauma
The Hippocampus and Healing from Trauma The hippocampus is partly responsible for learning, memory, and contextualizing life. Pretty important, but there are already two strikes against it: the hippocampus develops after the amygdala and is inhibited by cortisol. While […]
Medical Gaslighting from a Physician’s Perspective
Medical Gaslighting After gaslighting became the world of the year, it is not surprising to hear of its use outside of the abusive relationship. What is medical gaslighting, and how does it affect physicians? Since this is a blog […]
