When a Narcissist Projects Gracelessness What happens when your narcissist asks for Grace? Capital G Grace because he is either playing the victim, dog whistling, or gaslighting. Since the narcissist asked for Grace, they are playing you (just like […]
Codependency Codependency is hard to wrap your mind around. I couldn’t do it for 20 years. It just never made sense to me; it was as if the synapses wouldn’t fire. Now it is not as if the term […]
Happiness is a Choice Written in 1991, Happiness is a Choice is a book I couldn’t pass up at this stage. After all, I write about getting gobs of books to foment serendipity, and more recently suggested […]
What Happens When a Narcissist Hits an Effective Boundary Once you understand you are dealing with a covert narcissist, you must set clear boundaries to protect yourself. A narcissist finds boundaries intolerable because they lose control. So when setting […]
How Narcissists use Sandbagging Sandbagging is a way to self-discount such that the narcissist always appears grand. If we remember that grandiosity is central to a narcissist’s self-image, we can see how self-discounting and performing better than “expected” […]
Hope and Optimism Now and again, I turn to hope and optimism because it is fun. While I admit I’m a gruff pessimist most of the time, I do hope and have optimism for a better future. Hope is […]
Awakening as Re-Discovery Awakening means re-discovering your buried heart and soul. Who is your authentic self? When awakened, you are curious about your thoughts. Also known as “metacognition,” while it is re-discovered from different paths, you better understand the […]
Unrelenting Self-Love You can have unrelenting self-love. You are not bad or broken! You never were! If you have lost your way in life, it might be time to reinvent yourself, starting with how you see yourself. Some […]
Narcissistic Boundary Testing Narcissists frequently use “shit testing” (henceforth Testing) to see if you will be a good source of narcissistic supply. This Testing is not infrequently one of the first red flags you will encounter from an emotionally […]
